A Good Story

I’ve told the story many times, and with each telling, the ending changes.

Maybe it’s a trilogy or an on-going series. With each year a new twist appears.

Lama Tara reminds me that our lives are like a book. Even when you read the line “The End,” that’s never really the final scene. It’s just the place where the writer stops telling you what happens. Everyone’s path continues; we just don’t know where it goes.

I do know when this story began—September 19, 2006. I went for a walk on Salisbury Crags in Edinburgh and ran into the famous Scottish crime fiction writer, Ian Rankin. Ian is my favourite writer. It’s a very good start to this story.

Ian and I in 2006

The rendition of this tale begins when Ian said to me, “When you get back home, tell Alma Lee to invite me to Vancouver to speak at her writing festival.”

I came home and gave the message to the Vancouver International Writing Festival. I never spoke to Alma. (But I googled her and was impressed.) Ian appeared at the festival in 2009. We laughed about our chance meeting and his request. He thanked me for passing along the message. I still had never met Alma Lee.

Two years later, I created the Robbie Burns Reading Marathon event. One of the first invitations I sent out was to Alma Lee. I never heard back, but I am a tenacious soul.

The same invitation went out the following year for the second marathon. She answered, and on January 25, 2013, I finally met Alma Lee. She was absolutely perfect. She was a highlight of the event.

The story could end here…but it doesn’t.

Alma came back to last year’s Burns Marathon and did a special additional reading. By then it was not unusual to be in contact with her about Ian’s appearances in Vancouver or other Scottish happenings around town.

In April, Alma told me about her plan to put on another writing festival—a crime fiction festival.

And that is the beginning of this next chapter.

Last week, we started the major fund-raising for Cuffed, the Vancouver International Crime Fiction Festival. I am the Associate Producer, and I get to work alongside Alma Lee. I sincerely hope you take a look at our campaign and contribute. http://igg.me/at/cuffedfestival

Mug Shot FINAL Web version

Note to all…if you happen upon Ian Rankin on the side of a mountain, listen to what he says.

This has been a very good story.

 

Write it down

Why can’t I remember the perfect blog topic I thought of this morning?

This seems to be a writer’s dilemma.

So I went to a local craft store and bought a dry-erase board. I hung the board in my shower. It dawned on me that I have many ideas while standing there without a pen or paper in sight. Too many times I’m left repeating a “great line” over and over again hoping I remember it by the time I get to my desk. Too many times the words have been forgotten.

Now I have no excuse.

This may sound practical or it may sound crazy.

It’s a bit of both.

It’s also accepting that a perfect idea can be fleeting. Or at least an idea can be fleeting. It can take a while to discover if the idea is great or not.

With this blog, my new book, and all the various other writing I work on each day, I can’t have ideas getting lost. Many are washed away and spiral down my shower’s drain.

Who knows, this might lead to me making a grocery list or notes about my personal training clients on the board. Or “Increase Daphne’s plank time”, or “Buy milk”, or “More BOSU ball exercises for Pat”.

It might mean I spend more time in the shower. I look forward to messages from the “green” fanatics that believe we need to conserve water (don’t fret, I own a low-flow showerhead… save your complaints for someone else).

When I was young I don’t remember the need the write everything down. And there lies the issue, I can’t even remember that.

Reality check: I take long showers and I am an old writer.

Ready for some inspiration.

Ready for some inspiration.

 

 

Are you sure?

Today the airwaves are filled with comments about the Scottish Referendum Vote. September 18th will be their defining day. I’ve been watching the debate for a year and it’s been intense. But whatever Scotland decides isn’t going to make a difference here in Vancouver. We get to vote for our own future on November 15th.

I’m getting prepared.

This past weekend I got to chat with Kirk LaPointe. He seems like a lovely man.

He wants to be Vancouver’s mayor.

The story of his childhood, living in poverty with a single mom, brought back too many memories. I would have liked to hear more about how he has survived and thrived.

His concern for our children was his first message. I believed him.

His speech to the small gathering at the Kerrisdale home covered all the points. We heard about his impressive background. And I have to jump in and say it was impressive to me because it included the aspects I look for. Kirk has a background in publishing; he’s a journalist, was an ombudsman, and even teaches ethics and leadership. He likes to read. He has a twitter account. He is a family man. I wasn’t impressed with his enjoyment of boxing, but no one’s perfect.

I was surprised to find out we are the same age.

Then the conversation focused on the fight ahead. What was going to be needed for Kirk to reach his goal? What he would do if he won? What were his plans and aspirations for my Vancouver? Did they seem doable? Reasonable?

Bottom line: Kirk LaPointe seems like a very smart and good man. I would give him the keys to my car.

Another bottom line: I like Kirk LaPointe and will probably vote for him. And until the election I will tell people to find out more about Kirk. We need leaders like this.

The last bottom line: I believe Kirk LaPointe has integrity. I hope I’m right.

And my message for Kirk…

“Are you sure you want to do this? I like you. It’s going to get ugly. Politics and elections have become breeding grounds for trolls and evil. So really, I’ll ask again…”

“Are you sure?”

Vancouver Echoes

There are all types of writing. For me, the focus is on the task at hand. A business report will never look like the frenzied scratches so often found in my personal journal. The stories for my books will go far deeper than my blog. And notes to close friends will show a personal side few ever see. Little did I know a contest entry would merge all five.

Ken Wyder introduced his writing contest on radio station CNNW. I was listening. He wanted people to share their personal stories about Vancouver.

“Why Vancouver, Why You” http://www.pointgreynow.com/essay/

By the end of Ken’s plea for entries I knew what I would write about. It was a given.

What wasn’t a given was my reaction when the next round of the contest came about and the stories were posted for the world to see.

I had written Vancouver Echos as a very personal reflection on what haunts me every day. The words come much closer to my heart than I usually share with the people outside of my close circle.

So what happens now?

I swallow my fear and step forward. I go on-line and ask people to vote for my entry. I put my need to hide under a pillow aside and ask people I have never met to read my words.

http://www.pointgreynow.com/contest-results/vancouver-echoes/

If the story touches your heart please vote for it.

No one has ever said writing is easy. No one has ever said showing your tears is easy.

What should be easy is showing what is in your heart.

 

 

Summer Houseguests

The noise was a little creepy. And it was always there in the background. I asked if the squirrels made the sounds all night long. “No, they must sleep at night because we don’t hear them… well maybe a little bit, but that’s OK. The babies are getting bigger and they’ll be gone soon.”

A family of squirrels had invaded my client’s attic. The friendly pest exterminator had confirmed the breech. He had the ways and means to get rid of them effectively. My client was distraught with the thought of killing the babies. She just knew they must be awfully cute. Luckily her husband also had a soft side. Even better, the pest-man had another option but it would be timely and expensive.

Let the squirrel family keep their happy home until the kids were old enough to make their way outside. Once all were able to take care of themselves the attic would be closed up. The process was long and involved and took a special trap door and constant checks on the little family. A costly affair.

So for far too many weeks, during our training sessions, I could hear the critters scurrying around and running amuck above us! Wendy just laughed and said she imagined Mama Squirrel up there looking after her children.

Wendy always mentioned that her husband was good to finance the endeavour.

And indeed he was.

Before everyone grew tired of the squatters, Mr.Pest-man came back with the proclamation that the family had vacated the nest and he would block up the entrance. Mission accomplished.

Few people heard of the kindness. Casual conversation didn’t lend itself to, “We are housing a family of squirrels for the summer.”

Less than a week later a card arrived in the mail…

I guess someone was watching… or maybe squirrels are a little cleverer that we suspect.

Squirrel card blog 1

Squirrel card blog 2

Kerrisdale

I haven’t been home much in the past few weeks and I miss it. I live in Kerrisdale. It is a lovely place to be.

When I’m out in the world I tell people I live in Vancouver, but around here I always say I’m from Kerrisdale. I’m proud of this place.

We have none of the glitz and glamour of the city. No big views. Most people outside of Vancouver have never heard of the neighbourhood. We just quietly go about our business.

During the summer you’ll find many strolling the streets and heading up to 41st or the Boulevard.

On one of those nights I was waiting for my regular Blizzard to be made at our local Dairy Queen (yes, they actually know my order). The young man taking the orders focused his attention on the next customer, an elderly man with obvious strains of Parkinson’s disease. He had trouble speaking and could hardly open his wallet to take out some money. The conversation was painful to watch but also endearing. There was no rush or push, only respect. In due time the request for a dipped cone was made and paid for. Not for one second could I see this man made to feel he wasn’t a valued customer. This is how humans are meant to act.

I walked out with my Blizzard thinking, “I love this place.”

The attitude seems to permeate the entire village. Oh sure, we have some problems, but they are rare. Trouble is not a given here.

We have two Starbucks, one more trendy, one quiet and award-winning. Most say there are too many coffee shops along the main street, but this only means we can all have our favourites. I miss the Cheshire Cheese pub. It closed years ago and we do need a place to go for a wee pint and maybe a whisky. Yes, the shops are changing and some complain. But the people are still here. And we seem to remain the same.

In conversations about how life is going and the general state of the world I usually comment, “I can’t complain, I live in Kerrisdale”.

And if all goes wrong, I can stroll up to Dairy Queen where they will know what I need.

my street, my home

my street, my home

 

A Name Game

Is the opposite of kindness an unkindness? I had not thought about the word until Craig Ferguson mentioned it on his show… it’s haunted me ever since.

Last evening, I stood with a friend up near Queen Elizabeth Park in Vancouver and the nightly parade of crows started to fly over us. We just watched. Even though we had seen them many times the eerie feeling was disconcerting.

Hundreds of crow all flying in one direction. Seemingly on a quest. The occasional “caw.”

I asked if she knew about the ravens. She guessed I would have something strange to say.

“An unkindness of ravens…. a murder of crows and an unkindness of ravens.”

That’s what a group of them is called. I believe there is something perfect about the description. Not that I think ravens are unkind, but the word makes you want to know more. Why unkindness? What did they do?

And I get the feeling it will not make any sense.

Like a “murder of crows.” Yes, crows murder things but so do kittens. And we call them a “kindle of kittens.” This seems unfair to the crows.

Crows have also been at the birth of every Dalai Lama. Take that and file it into your memory bank. We need to stop being so judgmental. And furthermore, I like crows.

Try this; say these words and see if your voice goes a little spooky, “An unkindness of ravens.”

I bet it did.

Now say it again with a smile on your face… I bet you can’t.

Murder of Crows

picture courtesy of @crowtographer

My Constant Companion

Years ago I made friends with suicide. I realized that on this life’s journey he would be a constant companion so I would need to adjust my thinking.

We would need to become allies.

And we have.

Some days it is a give and take… so far we have remained equal partners.

I don’t fight against suicide or proclaim the horrors. It’s always there and will always be. It is not the problem. For many it is the solution.

We humans and our unkindness are the problem.

So suicide and I remain friends. He visits every so often as a reminder of how precious human birth is and how we hope for so much more.

Even the richest act of kindness cannot always stop suicide’s claim.

But maybe forgiveness can.

Flourishing

I love flourishing. Maybe this is the best proof my family is from Scotland.

At any bagpipe band performance my eyes are transfixed on the tenor drummers and the wild gestures they do with the mallets… the flourishing. They spin them around and wave their arms in a choreographed dance.

A large group of us gathered together up at Simon Fraser University to listen and watch the SFU Pipe band with their final rehearsal before heading to Glasgow for the World Championship.

SFU Pipe band final rehearsal

SFU Pipe band final rehearsal

A few thoughts filtered through my mind as I watched the group practice…

1. How lucky we are to have this world class band right here in Vancouver. Some people wait months and years to hear them play and I only had a thirty minute drive that included a stop at Starbucks.

2. The band members look very different when not in their kilts.

3. Bagpipes sound perfect when played outside on the top of a mountain (even though these ones, played by the best in the world, would sound perfect almost anywhere.)

4. I do love flourishing.

5. I am blessed.

After the rehearsal, the band started to pack up their instruments and the audience milled about. Sitting on the grass, a little away from the group sat a tenor drummer. I almost walked by but stopped.

“When I watch the band play I always watch you… I think you’re the best… I’m a big fan of the flourishing.”

“Thanks…” then he gave a shrug, “Thanks for saying that.”

I could tell there weren’t too many of us flourishing fans around, and even less who admit it.

His name is Mike O’Neil.

You can watch him and the rest of the band compete next week at the World’s

You know what I’ll be watching.

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New Shoes

I needed new shoes.

The invitation to take part in the opening ceremonies at the Pacific Northwest Scottish Highland Games was not to be taken lightly. At least not by me. And how could I refuse after receiving the lovely request from the Games President, Kate Freeburg.

I am invited to be an honoured guest.

For this event I knew I would need new shoes. There would be hours of walking around the fairgrounds and grassy fields. Then the all-important ceremony. And as luck would have it, the day would be ridiculously hot!

I’m like you and have watched many an opening ceremony. We’ve all seen people do this well and do it poorly. We’ve all seen dignitaries at events looking bored. I always want to yell, suck it up! Don’t show up if you won’t be engaged.

When I stand on that stage I want to show respect. Again, it’s all about intent.

So…I sing the four national anthems, bow my head for the invocation, and really listen to each speech. Smile. Ignore the sun. Applaud each gun salute! (Did I mention there were four national anthems?)

People have put days and months into making this moment. Show them it is important and I care.

And I do… I’m honoured to be there.

Every guest in every situation has a part to play. Whether you are invited to a friend’s home for dinner or an official ceremony. How we act shows how we feel.

On Sunday I drove for 8 hours to attend these Scottish Games. Who knew my role as President of the St. Andrew’s & Caledonian Society would entail such days.

It was worth every mile….even if no one noticed my new shoes.

Some new friends