Eight coffee dates, too many hours of texting, emails galore, three con artists, two lovely dinners… and with that, my time on Match.com has come to an end.
The process has been priceless.
And it’s not because I found the love of my life, or even someone close.
Match.com taught me a valuable lesson that I will keep close to my heart forever.
I am surrounded by the most amazing men.
And because of this, my bar has been set very high. Some may say unrealistically high.
I’m OK with that.
I’m also happy for my friends that have found love on Match.com.
It just wasn’t for me.
As I started to chat with men looking for love on the internet I became frustrated with the lack of truly interesting characters. Lots of these fellows were decent people with good lives. There was nothing wrong with them. But there was also nothing remarkable.
The guys didn’t come close to the people that surround me every day. My clients are the standard of men you read about in hero books. Leaders who are intelligent, creative and compassionate. I’m constantly in awe that I get to spend time with them. My male friends are funny, bright and best of all; most of them are following their creative dreams and winning! The men around me set a standard that is hard to compete with. Even my god-sons are rising up and becoming the best at what they do in big ways!
I know men that are doing something positive with their time and energy. They inspire me. They motivate me. They make me laugh.
They could all be a woman’s dream partner and most already fulfill that role.
How the hell did I get so lucky to know them?
I’ve written about many of these people and their deeds, their lives and how they choose to spend their time. Most of my friends are story worthy.
I just don’t see how the normal guy on the street can compete with the men in my life.
Thanks to Match.com for this reality check.
There’s no need to settle for second best.