There is a famous quote attributed to Buddha “Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and common sense.”
I am finding the need to repeat this sentiment more and more these days. In doing this I have not always been kind.
The trend these days seems to be towards “trusting” and giving power to the people around us and not listening to our own gut. Even worst, giving power to people not remotely connected to us. There are plenty of “experts” out there with proclamations on what’s best, but do you have to take their every word as gospel?
When did we all start listening to the so-called experts and hey, wait a minute, how come there are so many experts? And why do they all seem to think they know the answer? Even more infuriating they think they know what’s best for me! Wait. Maybe I’m taking this a little too personally.
I will admit, few people are telling me what to do. (Who would dare?)
Many of my friends and clients ask my opinion on the advice they are given. (And when I say advice I mean when they are told to do something) My caution is always the same… get a second opinion, do some research and most of all, trust yourself. That last one is the key. Listen to the voice inside your head.
I may have an over-inflated affection for the people around me. I believe most of them are brilliant. They should inherently know what’s best for them. I have faith in their judgment.
We tend to go astray when we give away our power. So stop doing that. Know thyself. Trust thyself. Give yourself the benefit of the knowledge you’ll know what’s right and wrong.
Buddha also said, “Be kind”. So I’ll back away from the computer and stop my rant… for now.