During the last few months I have discovered how rare it is for humans to keep a promise. It’s easy to make a promise but standing by your word is a lost art.
I’ve learned this during the horrendous consequences of buying a car, but as I look around I realize the problem is everywhere. How many people do you know that keep their promises? Do you keep yours? And do you just expect people to lie?
Has trust been flushed down the toilet?
Last Thursday I threw in the towel, traded in the dreaded “black car” and bought a brand new 2015 Mazda 3. That night I wrote in my journal. “I love this new car but I’m afraid. The last five months are haunting me. Have I made another mistake? Gosh I wish I could just have a little faith.”
All last week, while I test drove cars, mulled over finance options, and dealt with trading in the lemon, the promise from each and every person at Destination Mazda was the same. They were going to make me happy. They were all kind and helpful and sympathetic to my situation and they were going to make me happy. Can I believe them? Are they making promises they will keep? My God, these are car salespeople and history is not in our favour.
It’s hard to trust people. But trust you must.
That night I also looked back at what I had written in my journal a few hours after I bought the black car. “I don’t love it, I should but already there are problems!! Fuck!! Well I promise myself that if I can’t get things fixed and love this car by my birthday I will trade it in and buy one that makes me happy.”
This made me laugh… I had forgotten the promise I made to myself. In all the crap that has gone on with the endless black car issues it had slipped my mind.
Is that what happens? Is that why people break promises? Do they conveniently fail to remember? Or do they ignore the words were ever spoken?
The hardest part of all is to trust again. To look into someone’s eyes and decide whether you are going to believe what they are saying. We’ve all been in this situation and probably it’s happened more than once. The question is, do you have enough faith in mankind to believe again?
Life would be much easier if we all just followed this simple idea…
A promise is a promise.